Embracing Resilience: The Virtue of Enduring Injury while Socializing
Ibn 'Umar reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "The believer who mixes with people and endures their injury is better than the person who does not mix with people nor endure their injury."
الْمُؤْمِنُ الَّذِي يُخَالِطُ النَّاسَ، وَيَصْبِرُ عَلَى أَذَاهُمْ، خَيْرٌ مِنَ الَّذِي لاَ يُخَالِطُ النَّاسَ، وَلاَ يَصْبِرُ عَلَى أَذَاهُمْ.
Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 388
https://sunnah.com/adab:388
In Islamic teachings, resilience is closely tied to the concept of patience (sabr). The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said,
Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger."
لَيْسَ الشَّدِيدُ بِالصُّرَعَةِ، إِنَّمَا الشَّدِيدُ الَّذِي يَمْلِكُ نَفْسَهُ عِنْدَ الْغَضَبِ .
Sahih al-Bukhari 6114
https://sunnah.com/bukhari:6114
This hadith highlights the importance of self-control and resilience in dealing with challenging situations.
Islam encourages individuals to be patient and persevere through difficulties while maintaining positive relationships with others. This includes being patient with others who may cause harm or injury, whether intentionally or unintentionally. The Quran states,
یَـٰۤأَیُّهَا ٱلَّذِینَ ءَامَنُوا۟ كُونُوا۟ قَوَّ ٰمِینَ لِلَّهِ شُهَدَاۤءَ بِٱلۡقِسۡطِۖ وَلَا یَجۡرِمَنَّكُمۡ شَنَـَٔانُ قَوۡمٍ عَلَىٰۤ أَلَّا تَعۡدِلُوا۟ۚ ٱعۡدِلُوا۟ هُوَ أَقۡرَبُ لِلتَّقۡوَىٰۖ وَٱتَّقُوا۟ ٱللَّهَۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ خَبِیرُۢ بِمَا تَعۡمَلُونَ
O People who Believe! Firmly establish the commands of Allah, giving testimony with justice – and do not let the enmity of anyone tempt you not to do justice; be just; that is nearer to piety – and fear Allah; indeed Allah is Well Aware of your deeds.
This verse reminds Muslims to remain just and fair in their interactions with others, even when they may be faced with hostility or injury. It encourages individuals to exercise patience and endurance while maintaining their principles and values.
In addition to patience, Islam also emphasizes the importance of forgiveness and compassion. These qualities are seen as essential in maintaining positive relationships with others, even in the face of injury or harm. The Quran states,
وَجَزَ ٰۤؤُا۟ سَیِّئَةࣲ سَیِّئَةࣱ مِّثۡلُهَاۖ فَمَنۡ عَفَا وَأَصۡلَحَ فَأَجۡرُهُۥ عَلَى ٱللَّهِۚ إِنَّهُۥ لَا یُحِبُّ ٱلظَّـٰلِمِینَ
The retribution of a harmful deed is the harm equal to it; so whoever forgives and makes amends, so his reward is upon Allah; indeed He does not befriend the unjust.
This verse highlights the importance of forgiveness and reconciliation in Islam. It encourages individuals to forgive others who may have caused them harm and to seek reconciliation, rather than seeking revenge or retaliation. This is seen as a virtuous and noble act that is pleasing to Allah.