Nushuz in Marriage: Definition, Causes, and Remedies in Islam

Nushuz in Arabic is نشوز. It is derived from the root word نشز which means “to rise up” or “to rebel”. It is used in the Quran to describe the ill-conduct or disobedience of one spouse towards the other. It can have different manifestations and consequences depending on whether it is committed by the wife or the husband. Islam has provided remedies for both cases that are consistent with their respective rights and obligations.

The word Nushuz is used in two verses in the Quran: 4:34 and 4:128. These verses deal with the remedies for Nushuz in marriage for both the wife and the husband. 

ٱلرِّجَالُ قَوَّٰمُونَ عَلَى ٱلنِّسَآءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ ٱللَّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَىٰ بَعْضٍ وَبِمَآ أَنفَقُوا۟ مِنْ أَمْوَٰلِهِمْ ۚ فَٱلصَّٰلِحَٰتُ قَٰنِتَٰتٌ حَٰفِظَٰتٌ لِّلْغَيْبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ ٱللَّهُ ۚ وَٱلَّٰتِى تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَٱهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِى ٱلْمَضَاجِعِ وَٱضْرِبُوهُنَّ ۖ فَإِنْ أَطَعْنَكُمْ فَلَا تَبْغُوا۟ عَلَيْهِنَّ سَبِيلًا ۗ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيًّا كَبِيرًا

- " Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allah would have them guard. But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allah is ever Exalted and Grand ."[Noble Quran 4:34]

And,

وَإِنِ ٱمْرَأَةٌ خَافَتْ مِنۢ بَعْلِهَا نُشُوزًا أَوْ إِعْرَاضًا فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَآ أَن يُصْلِحَا بَيْنَهُمَا صُلْحًا ۚ وَٱلصُّلْحُ خَيْرٌ ۗ وَأُحْضِرَتِ ٱلْأَنفُسُ ٱلشُّحَّ ۚ وَإِن تُحْسِنُوا۟ وَتَتَّقُوا۟ فَإِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ خَبِيرًا

- " And if a woman fears from her husband contempt or evasion, there is no sin upon them if they make terms of settlement between them - and settlement is best. And present in [human] souls is stinginess. But if you do good and fear Allah - then indeed Allah is ever, with what you do, Acquainted ."[Noble Quran 4:128]

Tips for avoiding or handling marital problems: 

Marital conflict is inevitable and natural in any close relationship, but it can also be an opportunity for growth and improvement. It can be caused by various factors, such as differences in faith, culture, intimacy, or expectations. It can be resolved by focusing on oneself, communicating calmly and respectfully, and being willing to compromise or forgive.

Common issues that may arise in their marriage are anger, jealousy, snooping, interference from others, addiction, or cheating. Some of these tips include seeking refuge from Shaytan, keeping silent or lying down, appreciating and understanding one another, spending quality time together, being honest and supportive, and choosing happiness over being right.