How can I control my anger?

 Some tips on how to control your anger are:

- Recognize the signs of anger in yourself and others. Anger can manifest as physical sensations, such as increased heart rate, sweating, trembling, or clenching your fists. It can also affect your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, such as having negative or hostile thoughts, feeling resentful or hurt, or acting aggressively or impulsively.

- Seek refuge in Allah from the accursed Satan. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: 

"I know a word which, if he were to say it, what he feels would go away. If he said 'I seek refuge with Allah from the accursed Satan,' what he feels (i.e., his anger) would go away." (Sahih al-Bukhari)

- Remember the virtues of patience and forgiveness. Allah says in the Quran: 

"And those who restrain (their) anger and pardon the people - and Allah loves the doers of good." (3:134) 

The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) also said: 

"The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger." (Sahih al-Bukhari)

- Try to calm yourself down by taking deep breaths, counting to ten, or doing something relaxing, such as reading a book, listening to soothing music, or making dua (supplication) to Allah.

- Express your anger in a constructive and respectful way. Avoid saying or doing things that you might regret later, such as insulting, cursing, hitting, or breaking things. Instead, use "I" statements to communicate your feelings and needs, such as "I feel angry when you do this because it makes me feel disrespected. I need you to stop doing that and listen to me."

- Seek help from others if you cannot manage your anger on your own. You can talk to someone you trust, such as a family member, a friend, an imam, or a counselor. You can also join a support group or take an anger management course. There is no shame in asking for help when you need it.